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Life is Unfair. Now What ??

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|| Comments || January 15th, 2010 || My Thoughts, Philosophies & Psychology ||

I probably don’t go a week without hearing some form of this complaint — life is unfair. It’s usually in the form of:

I can’t believe this happened to me! Why do bad things always seem to happen to me!?
Why shouldn’t I be treated like someone special?
Why does everyone else seem to succeed where all I can do is fail?
I didn’t make the team/get the job/get asked out on a second date/get any of the attention my other siblings got.

You see how it goes. On and on, we don’t run out of examples of where we believe we’ve been untreated unfairly in life. Here’s how I try and look at it though — life is a never-ending game of learning. When something bad happens to you (or when something good doesn’t happen to you), it may not just be something bad happening to you. It might be a chance to learn something new — about yourself, about the way the world works, about someone else’s feelings toward you.

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Poem: Life is too short, but just long enough

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|| Comments || October 6th, 2009 || My Thoughts ||

Life is too short to be spent
griping about the past,
things you don’t have,
places you haven’t seen,
things you haven’t done.

Life is too short to be spent
holding grievances against another,
finding fault in your brother,
counting the wrongs done on you.

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The Imperfect Blogger

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|| Comments || September 16th, 2009 || General, My Thoughts ||

“If we had to say what writing is, we would have to define it essentially as an act of courage.”
~ Cynthia Ozick~

It’s a curse to have a thin skin. For a blogger and a writer, it is deadly. If you need to be liked by all the people all of the time, writing is impossible. Too often I find myself wrestling with my need to be liked and my need to write honestly.

In The Courage To Write, Ralph Keyes says, “If you’re not scared, you’re not writing.” Lately I’ve been scared to death, afraid of exposing too much of my private life and afraid of hurting people through my writing. The result has been a big fat case of writer’s block, not what Keyes had in mind.

To do a decent job of blogging you’ve got to take the risk to expose yourself. To be a good person at other hand, you give people hope by saying, “Yes, I’ve been there,” disclosing just enough of your story to connect with theirs, all the while keeping good boundaries. I’m a blogger and I want to be a good person too (honestly), so I try to do both, walking the tight rope without ever betraying my patients’ confidence or privacy.

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I feel like caged bird, that’s just been freed

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|| Comments || July 6th, 2009 || My Thoughts ||

Recently I completed my undergraduate studies and enjoying my free time. For those of you who don’t know, let me tell you that I had real hard time completing my studies. Its not bcoz i dont study or am poor in my work and all. For some reason, I had a very bad luck in the phaze of life called “literacy”.  I won’t term it as ‘education’…. coz even in this bad luck i learned alot which will surely help in my future life.

After completing my higher secondary classes, i decided to follow my decision rather than my parents and my family’s. I left my hometown for higher studies and joined a elite university in a place where i never wanted to go. But i went there coz that was the only university which was offering my kind of course. Not to mention i made marvelous friends there and i was really really good in studies there. Infact, i even came 3rd in my college (national level) once. But time had its own decision. The Supreme Court ordered the university to shut down fr some lengthy reason i cannot mention here.

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Good sense of humour

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|| Comments || July 4th, 2009 || My Thoughts ||

We have five basic senses, eyes, smell, touch, hearing and taste. But people also speak of a “sense of humour”, “sense of self”, etc — there’s countless “senses” if i keep mentioning the list. And so i got a topic to write something new here on my blog. I wanna talk about ’sense of humour’ today.

When you say that so-and-so person has a good sense of humour, what you actually mean is “Their sense of humour agrees with mine — they laugh at the things I find funny” and not that “he understands all the jokes of the world”. So in this respect a ‘GSOH’ isn’t so different from good eyesight — it’s a question of perceiving it right about things you think that is right. I hope you understanding my language.

But it isn’t just about perceiving. ‘GSOH’ could have plenty of other things implied with it– that the person can tell jokes as well as recognize them, that they have an appreciation of quality jokes, that they laugh frequently, that they’re optimistic, that they don’t take themselves or life too seriously, that they can be the centre of a joke without getting offended, and so on and on and on.

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Thanks For Hanging Out

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|| Comments || June 20th, 2009 || Daily Diary, My Thoughts ||

Recently after hanging out with a friend they turned to me and said “thanks for hanging out.” Which is a seemingly harmless statement, which, for some reason, provoked a firework display of thoughts in my brain. The main thing it reminded me of was of myself a year ago when I said that very same phrase to a friend. Her response was quite enlightening: “Sujit, you know you shouldn’t have to thank me each time we hang out, I hang out with you because I want to not because I have to.”

I could just over thinking this comment, but after this response I have stopped thanking people for hanging out with me. Yet, should we thank people for hanging out? They are taking their time, energy and often resources to invest time in our lives. Is this “thank you” just an implied non-verbal thing that we never say but we should assume people are saying to us? Shouldn’t we show gratitude for the people we have in your lives?

I may just be bias as I think that we have become an over grateful society. Apologizes and thanks run so rapid they seem to mean nothing. I am thankful for each and everyone of my friends if I say it or not. The key is finding the balance between fake and genuine .

Poem: My Story Will Still Be Told

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|| Comments || June 19th, 2009 || My Thoughts ||

This poem doesn’t rhyme
This song is out of tune
And this story won’t ever be published

Sometimes it doesn’t need to rhyme to be said
Sometimes it doesn’t need to be on tune to be heard
And sometimes it doesn’t need to be published to be true

Maybe it doesn’t need to rhyme
Maybe it doesn’t need to be in harmony
And maybe it doesn’t need to be punctuated perfectly

Say the words as they are meant to be spoken
Listen to the music as it is
And read the words as they are written

My poem will still be written
My song will still be sung
And my story will still be told