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Today I realized something that I wish I could have known long back. What I learned today is contrary to the well-known and the old saying, ‘everything is not fair in love and war’. According to me it’s not even anywhere near to be called ‘fair’.

Whenever people talk about love, they give ‘the idea of love’ so importance and weightage that anything done for love and in love is justified to be fair enough to balance the subject and the incident. Sleepless nights, empty stomach, leaving away your job, facing all kind of difficulties, everything is termed to be fair enough if its done for love or in love. This is the case especially for the youths and hearts of younger age.

But today something strange happened. I went to office…. and during the free time, suddenly the topic of love, marriage, etc came up.

Few of my colleagues from my present working place share the same previous employer as of mine. We were all working in the same firm previously. And so, I was telling them about one of our previous trainer of our old working place. I was informing them that our previous trainer got married secretly to a girl, without informing anyone. The fellow was already engaged to another gal and it was supposedly an arranged marriage awaited in the near future. But without informing that gal,i.e his previous fiancé, this fellow got married to one of his trainee from his company itself, with whom he fell in love recently.

When I told this to my friends, majority of them are females (at my working place), they suddenly started reacting negatively. They were like… the fellow did wrong by breaking off his previous engagement and running away with a new gal to get married, and stuff like that. And at this point of event, the question struck into my inactive brain… “Is the saying that everything is fair in love and war true or its just made up to cover up your unjustified acts???”

Not just my colleagues from office, but my other friends who knew about this event, they also were giving the same kind of reactions. They were worried about the gal with whom his engagement had taken place previously. No one was happy that this fellow is living happily with a person whom he love and who loves back to him.  Everyone was forgetting that his previous engagement was an ‘arranged marriage’. God knows if there was any spark of cupid in between them. I was confused with everyone’s reactions.

He left that gal, i mean his fiancé. He fell in love with another gal even though he was engaged. He ran and got married secretly with the new gal he is in love with. They are living a lovable life without the knowledge of his in-laws… Everything is wrong here. But then,  isn’t everything fair in love and war? If yes, then why people are thinking one sidedly on context of the gal who’s been betrayed. Why no one is happy about this husband-wife who were able to tie their knot in love?

You need to give a second thought over the phrase “Everything is fair in love and war”. So is the case with me…. i need a second thought. Even I am feeling bad and sympathized for his previous fiancé. But then suddenly you realize that your personal life is having other priorities and you need to get back to the life’s rat race being away from all such thoughts and getting involved in the daily schedule…. keeping you away from worries of others and most importantly, minding your own business.